After talking with friends on Twitter, this is what I want to emphasise:
Rape is forced sex without consent.
If your partner cannot say no to sex, it is rape.
If your partner does not understand what sex is and its consequences, it is rape.
If your partner is unable to say no because they are scared of you, it is rape.
If your partner is too drunk or passed out to say yes or no, it is rape.
Only if your partner is a adult who understands the consequences of that sex act and is willing to still have sex with you, is it a yes.
And yes, this applies to both men and women. Rape is not a gender-based crime. It is a tool used by rapists to silence their victims, to assert power, to satisfy their own selfish desires and egos. “Lust” is simply an excuse used by irresponsible people to force themselves on others.
Rape culture is an extension of that. It blames its victims and puts the onus on them to defend why they were raped instead of the rapist.
Rape is rape. That is all.